A few years ago I was given a mindfulness handout. To this day I still have that hand on the wall beside my desk. I find it to be helpful and thought it may help others when interacting with others or acting on impulse. It is a common tool used by therapist so you may have heard of it before. My interpretation is just that, I’m not a psychologist.
I tend to be impulsive and react rather than stop and think about my actions. Using the handout it stops me being on autopilot, acting mindlessly or just being driven by emotion. I can pause for a moment and quickly evaluate which place my mind is at, then act accordingly. It’s about learning to be in the present moment with our thoughts and actions.
In my interpretation, we have three states of minds: Wise, Reasonable and Emotional Mind.
1. Reasonable: we think rationally, logical, computational like, little feelings associated. You may use this mind when doing accounting, or drawing a map.
2. Emotional: we think emotionally, with feeling, often in this state reaching for dysfunctional behaviors.
3. Wise: this is where you want to be with mindfulness. In between reasonable and emotional, thinking rationally but while still taking into account our feelings and desires. We also take into account others and are empathetic. Wise mind also accepts.
How I would use it?
If I’m feeling a strong desire to do something impulsive or something that I know may possibly have bad consequences, I’ll stop and ask myself which mind am I in? More than often I will be in emotional mind, so I then leave the decision, and come back to it later.
Then later, coming back to it, maybe an hour later, maybe the next day, I would see it was a dysfunctional behavior and no longer having a desire for it. On the chance I’m in wise mind, I would go ahead with the decision if it is going to improve a situation. It is important to remember wise mind does accept. In acceptance you experience the situation as it, and don’t try make it how you want it. You are not imposing your will.
Something to think about when you’re making decisions or taking action.