Feeling not good enough is a fear almost everyone feels from time to time. It could be a sign of low self esteem , or maybe it is just part of being human.
To feel not good enough, we must be comparing ourselves to something. If I am feeling not good enough in a relationship it normally is because I am comparing myself to his ex girlfriends. If I feel not good enough in work it is because I am comparing myself to people in my field. It never is just an isolated thought, there is always an external comparison.
I remember a little while back I was on the phone with a successful business coach, and I said’ but why me?’. This business coach said back, ‘why me, why anyone’. It was a brief conversation but was enough for me to realize it is our own thoughts that hold us back.
There is no reason why you, me or anyone else out there can’t have want we want. But if we sit around feeling not good enough because we aren’t pretty enough, aren’t smart enough or aren’t rich enough, then all we are going to get is a lot of the same old.
Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system.
Deep down it comes from thinking if you are x or y then you will avoid being hurt, rejected, judged or prevent failure. Worrying about how others view you is exhausting and an unhappy way to think. Each time you think you are not good enough you are picking out a flaw in yourself.
Not only this, but you are putting it out to everyone what you think your price tag is.
If you think your cheap, you’re only going to attract cheap people who won’t treat you with the respect you deserve.
Set your price tag high and value yourself, in your personal and business life.
If you want to be happy, stop trying to be perfect. You never will be but no one else is either. How boring if we were all perfect anyway?
Uniqueness is beautiful. Be confident with the person you have grown to be.